I was expecting a dear friend for the weekend. She’s been wrestling a cold for months, and is the type who works and socializes even if she’s not feeling well. Knowing that she would visit even if she were sick, I suggested that she come another time. She didn’t take my suggestion very well. But wouldn’t it have been more respectful of her to stay home and not risk spreading her cold?
Shana, New York City
The answer in the column talks about trying not to hurt her feelings, apologizing, and asking if she can pick another weekend because you can't afford to get sick right now.
Except the answer ignores the bigger issue. Your friend has a cold for months? Um, maybe your friend should see a physician. Because your friend has HIV. Or lymphoma. Or something. Maybe. It's a pretty ridiculous advice column if the advice in this case isn't to see a doctor.
I eagerly await next week's column. "I have a friend who's bleeding from the head. I have white carpet. What should I do?"
Oh, and Merry Christmas. Mine won't be so merry. I'm working all weekend. But at least there's a tree in the lobby.